Grotesque Hooker

"Yes....you will always be fond of me. I represent to you all the sins you have never had the courage to commit. "

First off, I am die-hard Destiel shipper (OTP). I'm also a gay man. As of late of been thinking about this whole Supernatural-shipping thing and exactly who practices it. It's not secret that heterosexual women are the primary viewers/producers of fanfic/products. Can heterosexual women ship two male characters into a gay relationship in a non-problematic way? To be more specific, isn't this the equivalent of two heterosexual men consuming/producing lesbian stuff- literally the heterosexual objectification of same-sex relationships? Or is it different/ productive for same-sex love acceptance? Thoughts?